Wondering What to do After Hearing, “I’m Pregnant”?

If you recently heard these words without expecting it, you may be feeling pretty unprepared and scared, whether or not you want to admit it. You may be thinking:

  • I don’t even know how to be a dad.
  • How do I support her in this pregnancy decision?
  • I really want to have this baby, but she is wanting an abortion. What do I do?
  • I do love her, but I’m not ready to be a dad.
  • What about my school and career?
  • This was just a one-time thing; I don’t even really know her.
  • We are not in a committed relationship; what if things between us don’t work out?


First Things First

The first thing that is needed is a pregnancy test and ultrasound to confirm a viable, uterine pregnancy. We perform both of those at no charge to you.

We encourage you to come to the appointment with her. You make a huge difference in this pregnancy and regardless of how you feel, depending on whether or not there is a confirmed pregnancy — you could be the father of her child.

We offer an educational and mentoring program at our center where you can come with questions and be around others who have either been there or are where you are right now.
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You are in This Too, and Your Actions Make an Impact on Her Choices

While the decision regarding the pregnancy is ultimately hers, you should express your opinion and be there while she gathers all the information on her options. We encourage you to come with her to the ultrasound and, with her permission, you can be present while it is being performed.

Some things NOT to do are:

  • If you are wanting her to have an abortion and she chooses not to, don’t abandon her. Stand with her and get involved in the raising of the child — financially, physically and emotionally.
  • Regardless of what she decides, don’t assume that you will not be affected.
  • Don’t assume that your opinion doesn’t matter. When it comes to abortion, one of the biggest reasons women choose it is because of the lack of involvement from the father in the decision. Whether she admits it or not, she needs you.
  • Don’t pressure her or rush into a decision without getting all the facts and information.


You will have some responsibilities, regardless of what she decides. Consider what she is feeling and going through. You will need some experienced and professional support.

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may your choices reflect your hope, hone your fear.